Some shit that’s been annoying me lately
So everywhere I turn I see all this “feel-good” stuff about loving yourself and saying how you’re perfect just the way you are and never change for anyone and you deserve the best life has to offer just because, and I’d like to address this attitude of self-importance and complacency the American public has seemed to adopt.
- You are not perfect. We all have bad things about ourselves. “You’re perfect just the way you are” is a lie. Seek self-improvement. This does NOT mean you cannot be HAPPY with yourself, but we should all strive to be BETTER people, all the time.
- Claiming you won’t or shouldn’t have to change for anyone is silly. See point 1 on seeking self-improvement and your lack of perfection. Changing something about yourself, something like kicking bad habits or attempting to control your temper or trying to be more understanding (yes these are CHANGES) is a good thing. You are not compromising your integrity if you change for the better.
- Point two brings me to a big issue; health and hygiene. Body image is the big talk these days. While being happy with who you are is always important, again, seeking self-improvement is always a good thing. Health and hygiene are important, not just for your image and self-esteem but for your future! If you like being a couch potato, rock on with your bad self, but remember that down the road, neglecting your health and fitness will have consequences. Being “happy with who you are” is not an excuse for unclean or unhealthy living. It’s a cop-out, a pretty veneer for laziness. Get fit! Encourage others to get fit! Notice I say fit, not SKINNY. There is a difference. Learn it, learn your body, and exercise. Again, SEEK SELF-IMPROVEMENT.
- “Shoot for the moon and even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.” This is bullshit. You’re not shooting for the moon, you’re shooting for an A in your college class, or for that job, or promotion, so-on and so-forth. If you don’t get that job, you don’t get a consolation prize. You are still unemployed. Work harder.
- Humility. Get some.
- That brings me to my final point and I think the most important (because everything I say is important, duh). Avoid self-pity. Self-pity is the Devil. If someone else got that promotion instead of you, complaining about that persons faults and your merits and how much smarter and cooler and better you are isn’t going to get you any closer to whatever it is you want. It’s a waste of time and it’s poisonous for the soul and it will lead to nothing but a lack of motivation. What the rest of the world is getting instead of you is not important. Focus on you. Focus on YOUR work or YOUR grades or YOUR relationships. Life is not going to throw you a bone because you think the playing field is uneven or you’ve been treated unfairly. Go find your own bones
FEATURE NOTE: I’m featuring this because I think it’s something everyone should read.
Sure, it’s cool to dream, to romanticise, to make all the bad crap in life go away by sugar-coating it or finding ways to explain it away.
But the reality is that life will shit on you if you give it just a fraction of a chance. So don’t let it. Be proactive rather than reactive. Work hard, so that you can play hard and feel like you’ve earned it, instead of bitching because you have a misplaced sense of entitlement. Don’t give all the haters ammunition to use against you. Be selfish in a good way, in the name of self-preservation. Have fun feeling that you’ve achieved something, that you’ve beaten whatever demons you may have had. Walk down the street with your head held high for the right reasons, but know when to keep quiet and listen to those who have something to teach you. Be grateful for every lesson you learn, whether it’s painful or not.